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Mentoring successful women feel to secure, chosen, and powerful in love.
You’ve mastered every part of your life, except the part that still makes you doubt yourself and brace for the worst.
Through the Secure Identity Method™,
I help high-achieving women reclaim emotional power so they feel chosen, calm, and certain in love and relationships.
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You've done the therapy, the journaling, the healing work ...so why does love still feel unpredictable?
You’re not broken. You’re brilliant.
You’ve built businesses, balanced careers, raised families, yet still catch yourself spiralling when someone you care about feels distant.
It’s not your fault. You’ve been taught to manage emotions, not to reprogram the identity that created them.
That’s where my work begins.
Because once your identity feels safe, your nervous system finally stops scanning for danger and love becomes calm, not complicated.
“The Subtraction Method”
You don't need to become someone new to feel secure, you just need to release everything you became to survive.
The Subtraction Method is my signature philosophy that rewires emotional security through removal, not more work. We dissolve the protective identities, coping mechanisms and 'performing for love' patterns that keep high achieving women trapped in emotional effort.
This then leads to...
The Secure Identity Method
This is the proven framework I use to turn emotional awareness into embodied security.
Each step walks you from overthinking and emotional reactivity into self-led calm and connection.
Meet the woman behind Create a Life You Love
I’m Samantha Hyam, a UK-based Intuitive Identity Mentor and creator of The Secure Identity Method™.
After 13 years in toxic and anxious relationships, I rebuilt my entire sense of self and in turn, married a man I can proudly call my best friend. Today, I help women who “should be fine by now” finally feel emotionally secure in love, business, and life.
My work blends subconscious identity rewiring, emotional safety, and energy recalibration so you can stop performing and start receiving.
YOUR JOURNEY
STARTS HERE
STEP 1
Watch my short, supportive videos on love, identity and emotional safety.
I give straight to the point, fast track videos that will help you get one step closer to experiencing the relationships you desire!
STEP 2
You know you are meant for more but can't seem to explain why you haven't received what you want yet..
Ready to step into your power, embody your secure traits, and feel confident in love and life again?
STEP 3
You’ve done the work, but you’re still experiencing the same emotional patterns.
Ready to finally understand why and rewrite the story that’s been running your love life via personalised prescription?
STEP 4
You’re done trying to fix yourself, you’re ready to be the secure woman.
Ready to fast-track your full transformation in just 16 weeks and experience the calm, connected relationship you deeply desire?
Why This Work Matters
You don’t need another mindset hack, breathwork session, or communication script.
You’ve tried all of that and it gave you awareness, not peace.
Because the truth is, you can’t regulate your way into safety if your identity is still built on survival.
That’s why this work matters.
It doesn’t just teach you to manage emotions, it transforms the identity that keeps recreating them.
When your nervous system finally believes, “I am safe, seen, and chosen,” you stop overthinking texts, replaying conversations, and anticipating loss.
You don’t imagine calm you live it.
You wake up feeling anchored, soft, and in control of your energy, no longer performing for love or waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Because this isn’t about becoming a better version of you.
It’s about returning to the version that never doubted her worth in the first place.
Client Love
From Incredible Women Just Like You!
Because doing nothing feels safe, until it costs you everything.
At first, it’s easier to keep pushing through, to tell yourself it’s not that bad.
To keep performing, proving, and perfecting while quietly carrying the tension inside.
But the cost always grows.
You start to wonder if being alone would be easier than feeling unseen.
The pressure in your relationships bleeds into your body via headaches, back pain, exhaustion that no supplement fixes.
Your confidence erodes in the one area that was meant to feel natural.
And the longer you wait, the louder that inner voice becomes, until it starts making choices for you.
That’s why I offer a private consultation, a calm, direct conversation to explore what’s really driving the tension beneath the surface.
There’s no selling, no pressure, just clarity, honesty, and the space to discern whether this work is the right next step for you.
Experience My Zone Of Genius
The Snapshot
For £22, I’ll voice-decode the real story driving your relationship/ life patterns, the root of your overthinking or sabotage and, what your next steps are to ensure you get even closer to your dreams in 24 hours !
